There’s only one problem which can ruin your chance at a happy marriage, and that’d be the fury of hateful in-laws. So you thought they’re going to like you in the long run? Think again! There’s only as far as you can go for them to like you. Five years after your marriage and still no hugging during family reunions? Something must be done indeed!
Respect. No need to spell it out in big bold letters, but respect is one thing you have to give them so they can give it to you too. If you can gain their respect, you can live your life through even without their love. The only problem with respect is that it’s hard to give to someone who hates you. Isn’t that tricky? Look at it this way, they’re your husband’s parents and they’re way older than you which makes them seniors. Those are two reasons why you should respect the old folks. Just be grateful that they brought up their son so beautifully, and that if they were not good parents, your husband would’ve been a jerk.
Leave when you’re starting to get angry. When conversations on the dinner table turn out to be not exactly friendly, excuse yourself and leave before you say anything you’ll regret later. What you have to say may be true, but remember you don’t have to speak up especially when it’s only going to make things worse.
Discuss it with your spouse. You don’t have to tell him how much you hate his folks, or how you’d rather them sleep in the garage, but discussing the difficulty with your spouse can really help you. Remember that your husband (and your kids) is the only link you have and he can make his parents like you if he’ll always say good things about you.
Don’t give up. If you plan to stay with your man forever, then you have no choice but to really try getting on their good side. Don’t pressure yourself into doing it, but just try to be charming when they’re around. Eventually they’ll understand why their son chose you!
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